Mental Contrasting: 5 Powerful ways to make you a Successful Goal-getter
Mental contrasting is a very powerful way to gain focus and to stay focused on your goals and to ultimately be much more successful. If you would apply only positive thinking then most likely you will be more depressed and less successful than when you would also add negative thinking. This is the conclusion of scientific research. And this is what mental contrasting is all about: combining positive thinking with negative thinking to be more successful.
Please read on, because in this article you are going to learn the exact steps to incorporate mental contrasting in your life to make you a highly successful goal-getter! Furthermore, you will discover some of the best practices to apply this to your situation:
Why should you use Mental Contrasting?
Mental Contrasting can help you to become a highly successful goal-getter. Because ... you want to be successful in what you are doing, right? You want to accomplish every goal you set. You want to be more productive and focused in your life and career.
So, far so good.
What is your plan of approach for achieving that?
Work hard? Or work even harder?
You probably have noticed that that is not going to do the trick.
The problem when you are not as productive or focused as you want to be, is not how hard you work. It is about what you are doing in your head. Yes, you read that well: it's all in your head!
Here is the deal ...
Every thought you have leads to a feeling. And every feeling or emotion you have makes you move towards your goals or away from your goals (aka procrastinating from doing what you should do).
And every action you do or don’t do leads to a result.
And if that result is not what you want, then this is of course caused by the actions you did take and did not take. But the root cause of that lies in the way you think. So, if you are not happy with the results you have in your life, then you need to change your mindset first.
Ok, so, you want to change your mindset?
Change your mindset
Chances are that you have tried all kinds of positive visualization techniques or positive affirmations because due to recent movements like The Law of Attraction or The Secret, these are very popular techniques nowadays. But have they worked for you? Are you successful now? Or are you still living the life you lived a few years ago? Are you now healthier? Are you wealthier? Do you have better relationships? Or is everything still pretty much the same as it always was?
Research shows that people who only use positive visualization techniques and positive affirmations will not be as successful as they could have been.
Why you might ask?
This is where Mental Contrasting comes in!
Yes, you need positive visualization to visualize your bright and shiny future. And yes, you want to do positive affirmations to change your mindset and firmly believe that you will be capable of achieving all your goals you set for yourself. But that’s only half the work. That is ... if you really want to make a difference in your life.
The other work you need to do is Mental Contrasting.
If you only are visualizing and dreaming of the goals you have achieved, then it will decrease your chance of achieving that goal. This is not something I have made up. This is the conclusion of the leading scientist on motivation and goal-achievement Gabriele Oettingen. She has written a book on this subject, called Rethinking Positive Thinking.
One of Oettingen’s studies was about how women lost weight over the course of a year.
With astonishing results!
There were two groups of women in the research. The first group of women did a tremendous job on visualizing themselves as already slim, good looking in a bikini, resisting food easily and so on. This is how everyone tells you to do when you want to change your life. Visualize! Let the Law of Attraction do it's work!
The second group of women had to picture themselves more negatively. "Negatively!", you say. "What the ... That's asking for problems. What about the self-fulfilling prophecy of negative thinking?"
So, which of the two groups do you think lost the most pounds in one year?
The second group with women who visualized themselves more negatively! They lost 24 pounds MORE in one year than the first group!
Can you believe it?!
Would you have expected this?
Well, I sure didn’t until I heard about this study and the theory behind it.
Positive + Negative Visualization equals Success!
And the results of this study have been replicated in many other scientifically studies after that by Oettingen and her team. So, it's not some random one-time result. It's something which turns out to be quite universal for human beings.
So, whatever your goal is, it might be to lose weight, or to become more successful at work, or to get in shape, or to crush your exam, or to have a better relationship, or whatever other goal you might have.
If you only visualize success, then the end result will be much less than when you also visualize the negative side of your current situation.
And this, my friend, is exactly what Mental Contrasting is about.
In her studies, Oettingen uses a questionnaire to measure the level of depression the participants in her study have. It turned out that participants who only used positive affirmations and positive visualization were more depressed after a couple of weeks than the participants who performed negative visualization. Except at the moment of positive visualization itself, because then the participants corresponded less to depression.
The conclusion is that positive visualization has a very short positive effect on you. It is almost like taking drugs or drinking alcohol. As soon as the positive effect has vanished, the hangover begins. So, positive visualization alone seems to protect against sadness in the short term but promote it over the long term.
Why positive visualization alone doesn’t work.
Your mind is not able to tell the difference between something you visualize and reality. Everything you visualize is a reality for your mind. So, if you apply positive visualization and positive affirmations, your mind will experience this as an actual reality. That’s why it is so joyful and why it brings you a short-term feeling of happiness. But this will destroy your motivation and focus on working on your goals. Because why do the hard work if you already have achieved it? Well, that’s what your subconscious mind is thinking. If you are already thin, slim, healthy, weighing only 120 pounds and in great shape, why should you work out?
According to the research of Oettingen, positive visualization lowers your blood pressure and makes you feel less energized and motivated.
So, this is why positive visualization and positive affirmations alone don’t work.
Instead, you need to do Mental Contrasting as well.
What is Mental Contrasting?
So, you now know that only positive visualization is destroying your success. That’s why Oettingen developed the concept of Mental Contrasting.
Mental Contrasting is the process of visualizing your desired goals as well as visualizing the possible obstacles within you that will hinder you from achieving your goals.
Mental Contrasting is a way to acknowledge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be and to feel the pain or tension which comes with that gap. Mental contrasting is a much more realistic way of thinking. It is not only positive thinking. It is also not only negative thinking. No, mental contrasting is a realistic way of thinking about where you stand in contrast to your goals.
The process of Mental Contrasting
Mental contrasting is a 3-step process:
The result of mental contrasting
The result of doing this process of mental contrasting will leave you with the belief that you will be able to achieve your goals and also with the feeling that it will not be easy. There are a lot of obstacles you need to be aware of, and you need to work on.
But the process doesn’t stop here!
Doing mental contrasting only once is better than doing no mental contrasting at all, of course. But to really take advantage of this process, you should apply mental contrasting every day. A new belief is not built overnight. Your subconscious mind needs repetition. Furthermore, you will grow every day towards your goals. This means that doing mental contrasting every day, will give you new insights about new obstacles which are correlated with the new you, or obstacles you have never thought about before.
Make it a daily habit
So, make it a daily habit of applying mental contrasting for your goals, and you will be set for success! You will have more motivation to achieve your goals and also a higher chance of achieving them.
In the research of Oettingen, not all participants who performed mental contrasting had the same level of motivation and higher chances of success. Oettingen found that participants who had expectations based on earlier experiences of succeeding, who applied mental contrasting, were significantly more energized and more promptly engaged than the other participants. So, mental contrasting has the power to get you motivated, energized and to propel you into action, if you also belief that you will be able to achieve your goal. That’s why the second step in the process is also very important.
To be really successful, you need both steps: you need to do positive visualization to strengthen your belief that you will be able to achieve your goal and to set your expectations of yourself high. And you need to do negative visualization to see and manage all obstacles you will encounter on your path to your goal. If you get aware of the obstacles and know that you have a good chance of overcoming them, then you will be motivated and energized to come into action. On the contrary, if you doubt that you will overcome the obstacles, then you will be less motivated and start to procrastinate. This is why your goals need to be realistic. Challenging, but realistic.
So, another benefit of doing mental contrasting is that it has the capability to show you whether a chosen goal is realistic or unrealistic. If your goal is unrealistic, then you need to change your goal until it is realistic.
The hidden power of mental contrasting
Mental contrasting is a very powerful tool, and as you have seen, it has the power to get you motivated and energized to work on your goals.
Let’s explore why mental contrasting works so well:
Make mental contrasting a daily habit. Incorporate it into your morning routine.
Mental contrasting is a great tool to train your mind to be more resilient. Developing mental toughness will serve as a great asset for you, so you will be more successful in achieving your goals. The best way is to make mental contrasting a daily habit.
Mental contrasting will be your two-edged sword:
You will become more successful because you use mental contrasting to achieve your goals on a daily basis.
You will become even more successful because you develop mental toughness by using mental contrasting regularly.
So, what are you waiting for? Start using mental contrasting right here and right now!
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Are you ready to take your success to the next level?
Mental contrasting can be made even more effective. The trick is to develop an action plan for every obstacle you encounter. There is a whole method for this, called WOOP. In this method, you combine mental contrasting with setting implementation intentions, and this will make you even more successful in achieving your goals.
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You were probably already familiar with positive visualization before. In this article, I’ve shown you that only using positive visualization is not doing you a great job. It even turns out that people who only use positive visualization are more depressed than people who use negative visualization. Instead, I’ve shown you another type of visualization which is way more effective: Mental Contrasting.
Don't stop at positive visualization. Also apply negative thinking and you will be more successful!
Mental contrasting gives you a higher chance of achieving your goals, more energy and it will develop your mental toughness which makes obstacles in your life a piece of cake, as well as dealing with negative feedback for that matter.
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